Get Out Your Handkerchiefs (1978)

Get Out Your Handkerchiefs (1978)

“Why don’t you just give up on me? I’ve jinxed every guy I’ve known.”

The husband (Gerard Depardieu) of a depressed woman (Carole Laure) finds her another lover (Patrick Dewaere) in an attempt to make her happy, but it’s not until 13-year-old Christian (Riton Liebman) arrives in their lives that Laure finds her emotions stirred for the first time in years.

Genres, Themes, Actors, and Directors:

  • Bertrand Blier Films
  • French Films
  • Gerard Depardieu Films
  • Love Triangle
  • Marital Problems
  • May-December Romance
  • Obsessive Love

One expects nothing less than sheer romantic anarchy when watching a Bertrand Blier film, and Get Out Your Handkerchiefs — a dark satire which won an Oscar as Best Foreign Film of the year — is no exception. Blier fearlessly posits that the attainment of true love and happiness is seldom (if ever) possible through “traditional” arrangements, then explores what the ramifications of following one’s heart rather than social conventions might look like. His characters rarely act the way we expect them to — as demonstrated here by Depardieu’s Raoul, who genuinely loves his melancholic wife so much that he will gladly give up sole “ownership” of her if bringing a new lover into the mix will make her happy. As it turns out, however, rather than sparking any kind of renewed emotions in Solange (Laure), Stephane (Dewaere) ultimately brings more joy as a companion to Raoul (indeed, the potency and fulfillment of male friendship is another theme Blier seems intent on exploring in his films — though he wouldn’t take this to its logical homoerotic conclusion until later on, in films like 1986’s Menage).

More so than any other director, Blier seems utterly unafraid to demonstrate his incomprehensibility of women. Here, Solange is a literal archetype of feminine mystique — a beautiful woman so low in affect, and so single-mindedly focused on getting pregnant and knitting, that Dewaere openly questions at one point whether she might actually just be dumb. As noted above, she ultimately becomes merely a passive foil for Raoul and Stephane’s friendship — she’s a project they work on together feverishly, collaborating like giddy schoolboys. Once Liebman’s 13-year-old Christian enters the story, however, things take on a decidedly discomfiting tinge, and viewers applauding themselves for accepting the unconventional love triangle established thus far may find their sense of propriety tweaked, as it eventually becomes apparent that Liebman will function as a weirdly Freudian child-love interest for Solange. Liebman is fabulous in an undeniably tricky role: he projects otherworldly maturity in spades, and is clearly meant to come across as the “oldest” (emotionally-speaking) of the three central males in the film. The story’s denouement, naturally, takes on all sorts of wild and unexpected turns, and may or may not feel satisfying — but at the very least, Blier lives up to his reputation as an auteur who’s unafraid to go where few others will dare.

Redeeming Qualities and Moments:

  • Depardieu and Dewaere as Raoul and Stephane
  • Carole Laure as Solange
  • Riton Liebman as Christian
  • Blier’s utterly unique (naturally!) screenplay

Must See?
Yes, as an Oscar-winning film by a maverick filmmaker. Listed as a film with historical importance and a cult movie in the back of Peary’s book.


  • Important Director
  • Oscar Winner or Nominee


One thought on “Get Out Your Handkerchiefs (1978)

  1. First viewing. Yes, a must. Another rollicking romp from Blier.

    As you watch the first few sequences of this, you may begin to imagine the glee Blier feels as, in stream-of-consciousness fashion, he flits from complication, to development, to complication, adding and subtracting characters as needed. All of which is patently absurd as we watch. (Of the earlier sequences, I particularly like the one in which Depardieu leaves the restaurant, only to directly start up a conversation with a female stranger about his wife – which results in the stranger returning inside the restaurant with Depardieu to help the wife’s situation. It’s the kind of this-would-never-happen sequence that Woody Allen threw into ‘Annie Hall’.)

    From what I’ve seen of Blier’s work, it seems one must simply abandon oneself to him because all bets appear to be off each time. Which tends to make his work such a breath of fresh cinematic air.

    As I said in my post on ‘Menage’ – and as is true with ‘GOYH’ – this tricky, seemingly improvisational material, needs a go-for-broke cast and here once again Blier succeeds. Depardieu is a wonder, esp. with the quickness of his retorts, forever leaving the audience on their toes to follow his logic. Dewaere – sadly, an inexplicable suicide not that many years later in life – is utterly charming throughout (esp. in the scene in which he realizes he’s genuinely in love with Laure). As for Laure, it takes an actress of great skill to get the non-verbal mileage (reactions, emotions, etc.) that she manages with less lines than her co-stars. And, of course, Liebman manages to steal the show: no easy task, considering the talent of the trio he’s up against.

    A very satisfying film (even, for me, up to the end).

    Fave dialogue exchange –

    “It’s because she can’t bear children.”

    “Why? What do they do to her?”

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